Decisions, decisions

Deciding what baby items to get can be exciting, but it can also be daunting, especially with so many options available nowadays. You may look forward to getting everything that's out there. 

Or you may want a more minimalist approach or be working with a smaller budget. To be honest, while many of these items can make our lives a whole lot easier, babies don't need much. With some planning, you can create a nurturing environment for your baby without buying too many things.

I was absolutely overwhelmed by the number of items we seemed to need to consider and the options available for each item. Luckily, we had friends who had become parents just a few years before us and were eager to share their recommendations.

Once I learned about all the items, I also felt like we needed to get everything for our baby, or we'd fall short as parents. Now, with the benefit of hindsight, I would tell my past self to chill a little.

Essentials for newborns

Here's a list of items we feel are essential for the first year. Your list may look a little different. For example, you may not end up using formula, but we've tried to cover all the bases.

Sleep

First and foremost, you'll need a safe place for your baby to sleep, such as a bassinet, crib, or co-sleeper. Discuss whether you prefer to start with a bassinet and transition to a crib or start with a crib.

Bassinets

Bassinets are small beds where a baby can sleep from birth until they start to roll or sit (4-6 months). They are more compact, portable, and less expensive than cribs.

Cribs

Cribs are baby beds where a baby can sleep from birth until they're ready to upgrade to a "big kid" bed, typically between 18 months and 3 years old. Cribs are bigger, usually not easy to move, and more expensive - but you'll use them longer. Some cribs even convert to toddler beds.

Co-sleepers

Co-sleeper are baby beds designed to be attached to the side of an adult bed. They allow the baby to sleep close to the parents while still having their own safe sleep space. This setup can make nighttime feedings and soothing easier for parents while nurturing bonding. Co-sleepers come in various styles, including bassinets and cribs with one side that can be lowered or removed for easy access to the baby. 

Smart options

Smart bassinets and cribs have emerged as a new trend in baby items. The SNOO, which has skyrocketed in popularity over the last couple of years, is a bassinet that aims to settle a baby with responsive rocking and white nose.

MamaRoo also has a lower-priced rocking bassinet, and Cradlewise recently launched their convertible bassinet and crib that aims to help a baby go back to sleep with a bouncing motion.

Safety

Regardless of which option you opt for - safety is critical. The sides of your bassinet or crib should be made of breathable mesh or slats to ensure proper airflow.

They should be high enough to keep your little one securely inside - at least 8 inches for bassinets and 20 inches for cribs. You'll also want a firm mattress that fits snugly in the bassinet or crib and a fitted sheet with no loose bedding.

Diapers and wipes 

Diapering is an important part of caring for your newborn. You'll change diapers often, so choose a brand that suits your baby's sensitive skin. Consider absorbency, fit, and eco-friendliness when making your choice. Remember to stock up on wipes that are gentle and free from harsh chemicals. 

Disposable diapers

Disposable diapers are convenient—they're easy to use, don't require washing, and can be thrown away after use. However, buying new diapers regularly can get expensive, and they contribute to landfill waste. Some brands are becoming more sustainable and using fewer chemicals, so look for those if this is important to you.

Cloth diapers

Cloth diapers take more effort because they need to be washed, but they can be reused, which reduces waste. Research different types of cloth diapers, as there are now many options, like pre-folds, pockets, all-in-ones, and hybrids. Hybrid cloth diapers have a reusable cover and can use disposable or reusable inserts, giving you convenience when out and about.

Wipes

You can use water and cloth or choose wipes. If you opt for wipes, go for unscented, sensitive, or 99% water types designed for delicate skin. Avoid harsh chemicals and fragrances that can cause irritation. Thicker wipes clean better, and resealable packs keep them moist.

Pro tip: Try a small travel pack first to ensure your baby's skin reacts well before buying in bulk.

Diaper cream

Diaper cream protects your baby's skin from diaper irritation. You can use it at every change, especially at bedtime or only when you see redness. Zinc oxide creams create a strong barrier against moisture, while ointments help seal moisture away from the skin. For a smoother texture, look for creams with dimethicone, which also provide protection.

For sensitive skin, choose fragrance-free and hypoallergenic options to minimize irritation. Some parents prefer creams with natural ingredients like coconut oil or shea butter for added moisture.

Pacifiers

Pacifiers can help calm fussy babies and help them sleep. Infants have a strong suckling reflex, and a pacifier provides a safe way to satisfy that need. However, using a pacifier for too long—beyond ages 2-3—can negatively affect dental development and the growth of the mouth and jaw.

Choose safe, one-piece pacifiers made from durable medical-grade silicone or natural rubber, and avoid any that contain PVC, phthalates, BPA, or other harmful materials. Select the right size for your baby's age to ensure a good fit, and look for pacifiers with ventilation holes to promote air circulation and reduce moisture buildup against the skin.

Clothing

Babies pee and poop a lot, so it’s important to choose soft and comfortable clothes that are easy to put on and take off. Look for clothing made from soft, breathable materials and avoid anything with rough seams or tags that might irritate their delicate skin. Natural fibers like cotton and merino wool are excellent choices. Since babies grow quickly, don’t buy too many newborn-sized items; instead, get a mix of sizes to accommodate growth spurts.

Onesies are a great option, especially for the first few months.They're loose-fitting, one-piece garments that cover the torso and have buttons or snaps at the crotch for easy changes. You can find them in long, short, or sleeveless options, and there are also onesies with legs.

For colder weather, you may want to opt for footed pajamas, which are onesies with long sleeves, legs, and built-in feet to keep your little one warm from head to toe. These come with buttons, snaps, zippers, or magnets. Try a few different styles to see what works best for you and your baby. For example, we thought we would love footed pajamas with zippers, but we found magnets much easier to use.

You’ll also want to get a few tops and bottoms with elastic waistbands for your baby's wardrobe. Depending on your climate, you might also need a warm outerwear piece, a hat to keep your baby’s head warm, and a sun hat to protect your baby's delicate skin.

Feeding

Having the right tools is important when it comes to feeding your baby, whether you choose to breastfeed, formula feed, or do both. For breastfeeding, a comfortable nursing pillow and a reliable breast pump are essential. Choose a pump that fits your lifestyle, whether it's manual, electric, or portable.

If you're formula feeding, stock up on bottles, nipples, and a sterilizer to keep everything clean. Make sure to have a variety of bottle sizes and nipple flow rates to suit your growing baby's needs.

Bottles

If you plan to bottle-feed, you'll need baby bottles. Try different types to see what works best for your baby, as some may prefer specific nipple shapes or bottle styles. If you combine breastfeeding and bottle-feeding, look for wider, flatter nipples to help your baby transition more easily. Choose nipple flow rates that match your breastmilk flow, starting with slow-flow nipples for newborns and then gradually moving to faster-flow options as your baby grows.

Formula

Formula is designed for feeding babies and can supplement breastmilk or as the sole source of nutrition if you choose not to breastfeed. All formulas sold in the US meet FDA standards, but finding the right one for your baby may take some trial and error. Be aware that some babies may have sensitivities or allergies to certain formulas.

Ingredients

Cow's milk-based formulas are standard, but goat's milk formulas can be easier to digest for some babies. Specialized formulas, such as hypoallergenic or soy-based options, are also available for those with dietary needs. Always check the ingredients to understand what you're giving your baby.

Powder vs. Liquid

Powder formulas are economical but require mixing. Liquid concentrates are more convenient but can be pricier, while ready-to-feed formulas offer the ultimate convenience at a higher cost. Create a shortlist of options to try, and consult your pediatrician for guidance.

Breast pump

A breast pump helps you express and store breastmilk, which is especially useful if your baby is premature or has trouble latching. It's also great for moms returning to work or needing to be away from their baby.

Types of pumps:

• Manual pumps: Hand-operated and portable, ideal for occasional use, but can be time-consuming.
• Electric pumps: Battery-operated or corded, these are efficient and often come in single or double options for pumping both breasts at once.
• Wearable pumps: Fit inside your bra, allowing for hands-free pumping. They are convenient for busy moms.

When choosing an electric pump, consider features like adjustable speeds, suction levels, noise level, and battery life.

Accessories

All pumps come with accessories, so knowing how to use, clean, and replace them is crucial. Make sure the breast shield or flange fits well; a poor fit can lead to discomfort and reduced milk flow. Many brands offer resources online to help you measure for the right fit, and working with a lactation consultant can also be beneficial.

Take the time to explore different options to find what works best for you and your baby!

Talk to friends and family about their pumping experiences and look at reviews, but keep in mind that what works for one woman may not work for another.

For instance, some women find that wearable pumps don’t empty as much milk, while others have no issues. You might even decide to choose a primary pump for home and a wearable one for when you’re on the go.

Once you’ve selected your pump(s), remember to buy compatible bottles, storage bags, and cleaning supplies!

Car seat

A car seat, also known as a child safety seat, is essential for protecting your baby in a car crash. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration recommends that children use a car seat until they're 8 years old.

Safety

Choose a car seat with high safety ratings from Consumer Reports and meets federal safety standards. Keep your baby rear-facing until they are at least 2 years old for optimal protection.

Most infant car seats come with a base for easy installation in your car. This allows you to click the seat in and out. If you're in another vehicle or don't want to install the base, you can also use the car's seat belt.

Considerations:

• Weight and height limits: Typically, infant car seats support babies from 22-35 pounds and 26-35 inches.
• Weight of the seat: Lighter seats are easier to carry.
• Comfort: Look for comfortable carrying handles and a large canopy for sun protection.
• Adjustability: Check how easy it is to adjust the straps.
• Compatibility: Make sure the seat fits well in your car.

Stroller

Strollers are great for transporting your baby and can help reduce the strain of carrying them as they grow.

Considerations:

• Usage: Will you use it daily for walks and errands, or do you need a lightweight option for travel? An active family might prefer a jogging stroller.
• Portability: If you'll frequently lift it in and out of your car, choose a lightweight stroller with features like a one-hand fold and automatic lock.
• Maneuverability: Test different strollers for easy steering and turning, especially in tight spaces.
• Baby's comfort: Look for reclining seats, adjustable leg rests, and canopies for sun or rain protection.
• Storage: Consider a stroller with a large storage basket and extra features like cup holders or snack trays.

Finally, consider a convertible stroller that can adapt as your family grows. If you plan to have another baby, you can switch from a single to a double stroller. Some also offer riding boards for older siblings.

Bathtime

Bathtime can be a wonderful bonding experience for you and your baby. For a soothing experience, use gentle soap free from harsh chemicals and a soft washcloth. A baby bathtub or sink insert can create a safe space for your little one to splash around while you clean them.

‍Playtime & development

As your baby grows, playtime becomes an important part of their development. Choose age-appropriate toys and activities that stimulate their senses, encourage motor skills, and promote cognitive growth.

Look for toys with different textures, colors, and sounds to spark your baby's curiosity. Rattles, soft blocks, and simple board books are great for younger babies, while older infants will enjoy stacking cups, shape sorters, and puzzles.

Additional items

You might consider additional items such as baby monitors, sound machines, diaper bags, changing tables and pads, diaper pails, carriers, swings, and a glider or rocking chair. These items can help simplify your daily routine and make caring for your baby a little easier.

Other helpful accessories include burp cloths, grooming supplies, nasal aspirators, teethers, toys, and baby-proofing essentials like safety gates and outlet covers. While these aren’t strictly necessary, they, too, can make your life easier as you navigate parenthood.

Factoring in your lifestyle & living space

Every couple has different preferences and needs, so discussing your priorities, budget, and lifestyle is important. Consider what matters most to you, your daily routines, and your living space. For example, if you live in a small apartment, opting for space-saving items like a compact stroller or a mini crib can help you maximize your area without sacrificing functionality.

On the other hand, if you frequently travel, prioritize portable and lightweight gear that’s easy to pack and transport, such as a travel crib or a versatile baby carrier. You might also think about how you will store baby items, choosing furniture that doubles as storage to keep your space organized.

Seeking recommendations & reviews

Asking friends, family, and your pediatrician for recommendations can help you pick the right items for your family. Trusted people, especially those who have recently become parents, can share what worked for them and what didn't, guiding you toward reliable brands and essential items you might not consider otherwise.

Checking online reviews is another great way to get more information. Websites that focus on baby products often include customer feedback that points out both the positives and negatives of different items.

Pay attention to common themes in the reviews; if many users highlight a specific feature or mention problems, it can help you decide if a product is worth it.

If you’re part of any online parenting groups, ask for recommendations there as well. These communities can provide diverse opinions and introduce you to lesser-known products that have received good reviews.

Thinking long term

Some items may have options that can grow with your baby, like a crib that converts into a toddler bed. This type of furniture adapts to your child’s needs and lasts for several years, saving you from having to buy a separate bed later.

Focusing on safety

‍Make sure that all your items meet current safety standards and have not been recalled. Look for certifications from reputable organizations like the Juvenile Products Manufacturers Association (JPMA) or the Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC).

Checking your insurance

Some health insurance plans may help cover costs for items like breast pumps, formula, and baby gear if it’s considered medically necessary. It's a good idea to check your policy or contact your insurance provider to see what’s covered and what requirements you need to meet. By using your insurance benefits, you’ll lower your out-of-pocket expenses and make it easier to manage the costs of bringing a new baby home.

Borrowing or buying secondhand

If you want to save money or reduce your carbon footprint, think about borrowing or buying secondhand items.

Friends and family with young children may have gently used baby gear they’re willing to share. Community groups, online parenting forums, and neighborhood apps are also great places to find pre-loved items.

If you want more choices, online marketplaces and consignment stores have a wide variety of secondhand options.

‍Adding items to your registry

If you’re having a baby shower, create a registry with the items you want. This helps your loved ones know what you need and prevents duplicate gifts. Popular registries include Babylist, My Registry, Target, and Amazon.

Finally, as cheesy as it sounds, remember that your baby's happiness and well-being come from your love and care, not from the number of items they have.

Additional resources:

• Pregnancy & Baby Products You Can Purchase With HSA/FSA (Babylist)
• Your Ultimate Checklist of Baby Essentials (The Bump)
• Must-Have Baby Essentials for Your Registry (Parents)
• The Best Baby Gifts That Parents Really Want to Receive (Parents)